Why dont co-drivers understand that driving feels a lot easier when you are not driving!! What is it about being a co-driver that makes them so nervy? Not all drivers are rash and yet most co-drivers are :p.
In one of my earlier blogs (http://bit.ly/uXB0v3 ), I had said that I am a very bad co-driver. Let me begin by explaining what I mean by co-driver: In a non-racing environment, any person sitting on the seat next to the drivers seat is a co-driver ( its normally a co-navigator in a race and he / she plays an important part in the grand sceme of things ). I will put my hand up and confess straight away that I am one of the worst co-drivers around. I cannot sit still on the seat and not talk to the driver. I have to give my opinion on what they did right or wrong during driving even though no one ever asked for it. I make it clear that I like the driver to err on the side of caution and dangerous driving is not only appreciated but detested. To think of it, I am amazed that people actually let me sit next to them J
What is it about being on the co-drivers seat that brings about such a drastic change in my personality? In my day to day transactions with people, although I am assertive with my opinions, I am more than happy to let people make / influence most of my decisions for me. Infact, in most day to day life situations, I hardly have any favourites ( e.g. no favourite food / drink, dress code etc. you get the idea ) and have a can do / will do approach to life. I must however quickly add that I do follow zero tolerance policy towards certain things ( E.g. Drug abuse ). So why is being a co-driver so different than any other thing in life?
I think my behaviour as a co-driver is pretty much a reflection of my general attitude towards life. I am not risk averse. Far from it actually! However, the one thing that I cant live with is knowing that I have in any manner or way changed someone’s life for the worse. The guilt associated with that, I think, will never let me live a normal life. In general when I drive, I am very conscious of the speed limits and the general rules of safety. I am not the best of drivers you can find on road but I am pretty sure I am one of the safest. It may not sound exciting but it is what it is. Am I afraid of speed? Does it scare me? I don’t think so. In a way, yes I am afraid of speed cause I cant stop thinking of what might happen if I hit a pedestrian and the thought of actually being responsible for someone’s death always acts as a ‘speed camera’. I think when I am a co-driver, the fact that I am not in a position to control the events to follow in someway makes me uneasy to such an extent that I almost start issuing disclaimers to the drivers!!! So much for a confidence building co-driver. Its not that I have no confidence in the drivers ability, but it’s the notion of not being in control of my fate that really brings about the change in my personality.
I think my behaviour is a good yardstick to judge my response to most life changing / threatening situations. If I am actively managing the situation, I may be anxious at times, but normally I end up coming through it. My life till date is a live demo of that day in and day out. But there are always those situations where I am helpless to the extent that nothing I do is going to change the fabric of life in any way. ( I will expand upon this in one of the blogs to follow ). To wrap it up, I don’t mind being a co-driver as long as the driver is a sane person. To put it in simple terms, I understand that there are times in life when things seems to be uncontrollable or beyond my sphere of influence but I would still be happy to go along as long as I know there is a willing driver somewhere in the vicinity.
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